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Love Your Kids. That Is All.

March 16, 2015

Every once in a while, God slaps me with a change in perspective. And it hurts.

Bad.

I sat at the family dinner table on an ordinary Monday night, cutting a pork chop and listening to our five-year-old rattle off her favorite activities of the day—our usual suppertime discussion. “I liked when we went to the park, when we blew bubbles outside, when Daddy came home from work. . .”

Just then I reached for a forkful of rice and heard it—a strangled, guttural sound coming from across the table. My head jerked up and in an instant my brain registered the source.

Our eight-year-old daughter was choking.

Love your kids. That is all.

In a single motion, my husband leapt from his chair, lifted our daughter over his forearm and slapped a hand to her back. Praise God, the obstruction dislodged from her throat and she spit it onto the table. I wrapped my arms around her and didn’t let go.

In moments like that, a mom realizes what she has. And what she could lose.

“Are you okay?” I held my daughter’s face in both hands and searched straight into her eyes.

“Yes, momma,” she whispered and nodded.

“Well, I guess we’re not having those pork chops again!” My husband attempted to lighten the mood. But I knew it freaked him out, too. Our daughter sat on my lap for the remainder of the meal, although neither of us was hungry anymore.

The choking incident itself lasted a matter of probably seven seconds, but in my panic mode, I experienced the whole ordeal in slow motion. Then the adrenaline rushed throughout my body and I fought back tears. Suddenly I saw my daughter with fresh eyes.

Not as the girl I scolded two minutes earlier for poking her sister with a spoon.

Not as the child who would waste a perfectly good plate of vegetables then ask for ice cream before bed.

Not as the kid whose homework drains a portion of my dwindling energy night after night.

Again she was my gift. It was like the scales sloughed off my eyes, and for the rest of the evening and all the next day, whenever I looked at my daughter I saw her more clearly for who she really is—a treasured possession on loan from God. And I shuddered to remember he has the right to take her away at any moment.

The question is—how am I spending the moments he gives me?

I know on this blog I often focus on the common frustrations we moms face. The sibling bickering, the sleepless nights, the mommy guilt, the puking kids—you name it. If we struggle with it, I’m going to write about it, and I love that you’re here, joining me for the ride. I truly believe we can find God in the midst of our everyday annoyances.

But I hope you also know that at the core of everything we explore together, I love being a mom. My heart has grown ten times its size since parenthood rocked my little universe. And my children—my precious, beautiful children—are worth every single challenge the Lord has thrown my way and so much more. And the same is true for you.

It shouldn’t take a life-or-death moment for us to realize how much our kids mean to us.

So today I don’t want to whine about laundry or glitter or the ridiculous cost of braces. I just want to encourage us all to cherish our kids. Whatever busy work you had planned today, will you toss it aside for a minute and hug your children tight? Because none of the other junk matters compared to them.

Let’s love our kids while we have the chance.

Amen?

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8).

Blessings,
Becky

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Comments

  1. Debra says

    March 16, 2015 at 12:30 pm

    I think I have this realization every day. When I take a moment to slow down and review and repent, I see that I need to just love my kids. Remove those scales from my eyes and just love them. Yesterday I think I cried through a bit of church because I’d spent all morning being deeply annoyed at my oldest child. When I got home I just cried and prayed trying to reset my day, knowing that I needed to love her more. Good lesson.

    • Becky says

      March 16, 2015 at 1:42 pm

      I can relate to that, Debra. It usually hits me at the end of the day after the kids are in bed and I look back on how I treated my family that day. Was I too grumpy? Too harsh? But then I also remember grace. God has an endless store of it.

  2. Keri says

    March 17, 2015 at 12:43 pm

    So encouraging. It is so important to just slow down and love them… Easy to loose sight of that- Thanks for sharing at Tues Talk!

    • Becky says

      March 18, 2015 at 9:26 am

      Slow down… very true, Keri!

  3. Beth says

    March 18, 2015 at 12:43 pm

    This reminds me of all that God is trying to teach me about His redirections and redemptions in life, Becky. I know that if I really pay attention, God is always bringing some good out of the bad. In your case, thankfully it was simply a quick lesson that brought you back to the important truth of the gift that is your child. We all take the people in our lives for granted from time to time, but to remember how valuable they are is a lesson we cannot afford to overlook. We must strive to live continually in gratitude to God for the gifts He lets us hold and manage each day. And when we don’t understand His purposes, trust His goodness even then–because there’s a gift He wants us to receive and open! Hugs to you!

  4. Shell says

    March 18, 2015 at 1:48 pm

    A-men. I was watching my boys ride their bikes yesterday and I was overcome with this feeling of what if this was the last day we had together? And it made me look at everything differently, really enjoy instead of tolerate.

  5. Crystal says

    May 30, 2015 at 11:22 am

    I needed this today! We have been house cleaning and nothing brings out my intolerant side like trying to get kids to clean. I feel like I can either enjoy and love my kids OR I can get something accomplished, but I can’t do both!

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